Trade Offs

So, I'm really NOT ready for the 4 months shy of 3 year old to give up her naps for good, but this week + at home with mom has not been encouraging on that front. She napped her normal 2 hours last Saturday, then not again until yesterday aside from the few minutes here and there in the car. Yesterday, she wailed in the crib for 15 minutes or so, then did sleep for 2+ hours, so she clearly still needs them, BUT, she was awake until 11:00p.m. last night! 11:00p.m.!! This is not going to fly when school/work resume Wednesday! I'm almost inclined not to force the nap, because then she's passed out by 8:00 p.m. or close to, but she's a whiney mess by 5:00 or so when she hasn't napped. For purely selfish reasons, I like to have her down by 8:00 in the evening so I can have a conversation with the husband, watch some tube or read and unwind with some wine, but I don't want to do anything detrimental to her healthy development, and now, it's 2:15 and we're not napping of course....